In light of everyone’s
ignorant comments on what happens during a rape and women’s bodies I’d like to
make this post of how I truly feel. Maybe I was the idiot who fell asleep
during sex Ed but I had no idea that my body could stop itself from being raped. This is
like really new to me because if my vagina can actually do that I would have
liked to known this when I was raped the first time in High School that way
maybe I could have just held on to my virginity a little bit longer.
So since there’s really
no new magic button inside my body but the G-Spot I’m guessing that would be my
Anti-Rape button that must be activated while I’m being raped right? Or can I not
press that button myself? Like does it only work if my rapist is raping me or
does he have to do it a certain way? Like does he have to be choking me or does
it have to be violent? Do I have to resist in order for my vagina to stop
working? Or does it have to get to the point where physical violence has to be involved?
If I’m not violently injured during the rape then I’m guessing that I wasn’t actually
raped because my vagina didn’t shut it down right?
So what my rapist did to
me was violent forceful sex then? Or would it be something like 10th
degree rape? You know that rape where you don’t resist because you’re in shock
and your body freezes on you and the only thing you can think or doing is
making sure that you make it out alive during the rape. It’s the rape where
there are no physical scars because the monster who raped you was your
boyfriend or your husband, that nice guy who took you out for dinner after
telling you how beautiful your eyes looked in that green dress you were
wearing. It’s that 10th degree rape
because your body didn’t shut down and even though he threaten to shred your insides
apart it doesn’t matter because he didn’t do it and because you have to prove
you fought back but which you didn’t because your body could not move.
So what I’m trying to
understand is what do I call what happened to me? I had no scars, no cuts no
bruises……what would you call what happened to other women? They had no scars,
they didn’t fight back, and they didn’t get hit? I call it rape. Not 1st
degree, not 3rd degree, I don’t call it non-consensual sex or
forceful sex or even sex against your will. I’m fuckin calling it what it is
RAPE.
I say this over and over
again. If it was your wife, your daughter, your sister, your mother or your
grandmother would you really still be this ignorant. Would you say to your wife’s
face that it was her fault she got raped because her body couldn’t shut the
whole thing down? Would you tell your daughter that it’s her fault she got rape
because she didn’t fight back? Would you say to your mothers’ face it’s your
fault you got raped because you had a drink in the bar and got drunk? Would you
say to your granddaughters face it’s your face you got raped because you had on
a skirt and we know that men have no control over their penises and if its
walking around in a short skirt then they are asking for whatever attention
they deserve to get……….
What the hell happened to
respect? What happened to not touching people unless they want to be touched? What
the hell is wrong with people now days. I don’t understand how the fuck you can
justify how an 11 year old girl gets gang raped by over 20 men and then say she
looked older than what she is????? I DON’T GIVE A FUCK IF SHE WAS WALKING
AROUND BUT ASS NAKED, 1 she’s a child, 2 you’re an adult and most importantly NO
ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO TOUCH YOU UNLESS YOU GIVE THEM PERMISSION. It’s as simple
as that. Keep your fucking hands to yourself and leave other people the fuck
alone. Damn what is so hard to understand about that damn concept?
Don’t even being to
bullshit me around with oh it’s a mental condition shit. No it’s a choice. There
are women out there who are willing to sleep with you whenever you want,
although it is illegal there is prostitution, you can pay for sex(although I’m
not promoting that either) if you like bondage and things like that they have
groups for that, they have groups for everything so this I couldn’t find it
crap is bullshit. Rape happens because WE LET IT HAPPEN. We are the ones who
are blaming the victims instead of the criminals. We are the ones in the victims
faces asking them why were you wearing this, why did you go out with him? Why were
you drinking? Why was he in your room? Why did you go into his house? BECAUSE I
FUCKING FELT LIKE IT. I wanted to wear a nice skirt, I wanted to have one beer
at the bar by my god damn self, I wanted to go on a date with you, I wanted to
kiss you on my bed, please explain to me where the fuck does any of that give
you the god damn right to rape me? OH that’s right it doesn’t.
We need to get our heads
out of our own asses and actually look around at what’s happening to us. The United
States is starting to turn into 3rd world countries when it comes to
women and women’s rights, and victims and victims’ rights(yes men are raped,
and molested, and abused, and in abusive relationships too). We have fucking
dumb ass ignorant ass judges telling us that women can’t be raped because our bodies
have a way of stopping the rape from happening (this is a dumb ass judge who
apparently was a prosecutor in the sex crimes unit in Orange County) then had
the nerve to say that he gave the case 6 years because that’s what it was
worth.
So my rape and the threat
towards me to shred my vagina, on top of your ignorant comment about me not
being a real rape victim(because I didn’t fight back) and the rape
"technical" and not "a real, live criminal case." The years
she will suffer will be more than 6 years’ worth of pain, it’s a lifetime sentence
for her but he gets off with just 6 years. That’s all were worth is 6 years’
worth of jail time……….
California judicial panel
admonishes O.C. judge for rape comments
Judge Derek G. Johnson
had said the victim 'didn't put up a fight' and that the sexual attack was
'technical.' The panel called his comments outdated and insensitive.
By Christopher Goffard,
Los Angeles Times
December 14, 2012
A longtime Orange County
judge who said that a rape victim "didn't put up a fight" and that
her sexual assault was only "technical" has been publicly admonished
by a state agency that said his remarks seemed outdated, insensitive and
possibly biased. The Commission on Judicial Performance said Superior Court
Judge Derek G. Johnson's comments breached judicial ethics.
At a sentencing in 2008,
Johnson denied a prosecutor's call to impose a 16-year prison term on Metin
Gurel, who had been convicted of rape, forcible oral copulation, domestic
battery, stalking and making threats against his former live-in girlfriend. On the
day he raped her, prosecutors said, Gurel had threatened to mutilate the woman
with a heated screwdriver. Johnson imposed a six-year sentence.
"I'm not a
gynecologist, but I can tell you something," the judge said, according to
documents released Thursday. "If someone doesn't want to have sexual
intercourse, the body shuts down. The body will not permit that to happen
unless a lot of damage is inflicted, and we heard nothing about that in this
case.
"That tells me that
the victim in this case, although she wasn't necessarily willing, she didn't put
up a fight," the judge said. The judge, who has been on the Orange County
Superior Court since 2000, also declared the rape "technical" and not
"a real, live criminal case."
"To treat this case
like the rape cases that we all hear about is an insult to victims of
rape," the judge said. "I think it's an insult. I think it
trivializes a rape." The San Francisco-based Commission on Judicial
Performance said Johnson's remarks flew in the face of California law, which
does not require proof that a rape victim tried to resist an attack. "In
the commission's view, the judge's remarks reflected outdated, biased and
insensitive views about sexual assault victims who do not 'put up a fight,'
" the agency said in a news release Thursday.
"Such comments
cannot help but diminish public confidence and trust in the impartiality of the
judiciary. In his response to the commission and at his appearance, Judge
Johnson conceded his comments were inappropriate and apologized."
Johnson remains on the
bench.
"Neither Judge
Johnson nor I will be making comment," said Johnson's attorney, Paul S.
Meyer, when reached by phone Thursday. The commission, which is composed of
judges, lawyers and members of the public, voted 10 to 0 that Johnson deserved
a public admonishment.
The commission said it
did not learn of the judge's remarks until May 2012. The OC Weekly published a
story on the judge's remarks in 2008
christopher.goffard@latimes.com
Copyright © 2012, Los
Angeles Times
